Children to -:

  • Children to know the need to be honest
  • Children to speak the truth always
  • Children to be gentle with each other

Bible Story Reference: – Acts 11:19-30

Memory Verse: 

Ephesians 4:29

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their
needs, that it may benefit those who listen.


➢ Identify words of encouragement with the children.
➢ Have the children move among themselves speaking the words identified

Bible Story

Truth is to be spoken in love. As we get to know each other and grow
in authentic relationships, we realize that sometimes we have to
speak to someone who has maybe wronged us or may be doing
something wrong.
➢ How we give correction to others will determine how authentic our
relationship will get to be.
➢ In John 4 Jesus speaks to the Samaritan woman. Everyone else
prefered not to be associated her and she knew that she had done
some wrong things. Jesus was not harsh with her yet He helped her to
see that the kind of life she was living was not the best.
➢ On the other hand when Jesus spoke to the Pharisees, he was not as
gentle as he was with the Samaritan woman instead He clearly brought out the truth like at the temple when He had to drive out and
turn the tables for those present to understand the truth.
➢ As we spend time with each other we get to know each other better
and when you know someone you learn how to communicate with
them well. We will therefore be gentle even when speaking difficult
➢ Speaking the truth in love means when we see a friend going the
wrong way, we will help them see that what they are doing is not the
best. We will not be silent but encourage them to do the right. For
example if our friend is littering and making the environment dirty,
we will gently help them see that they ought to throw their rubbish in
the dustbin and not just anywhere.
➢ For us to build authentic relationships there should not be any
falsehood in our speech. When we interact we speak words that build
and encourage and not lies or gossip. Our tone with each other will
show that we care and love our friends.
➢ Ephesians reminds us that even when we get angry, some situations
will make us angry, we should not sin. Instead we can take a deep
breath and calm down before we speak any word. Let us allow the
Word of God to help us be like Jesus so that when we are upset we do
not hurt each other with the words we speak. When we get angry we
speak harshly to those we love saying words like :
o To our friends, “You are not my friend.”,
o To our parents, “You don’t even love me!”
o To our siblings, “I will never share with you anything!”


1. In our lesson today what did we learn to do to have authentic
relationships? speak the truth in love
2. Who in the Bible did Jesus speak the truth to in love? The Samaritan
3. Who did Jesus speak the truth to harshly? The Pharisees
4. What does the Bible teach us to do when we get angry? Not to sin
instead we can get calm and then respond to those that have upset


Dear God, help me today to stay calm even when something makes me
angry. I pray Lord that when I am with my friends I will be gentle and speak
with them the truth. In Jesus name Amen.


Breathing exercise for when we get upset. Take a deep breath
and count to 10 backwards.